May 20
I Feel a Fight Coming On
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There is a very touchy subject around here. It’s been the focus of more than one heated argument, especially lately.

You see, UMB and I have very different memories of what date constitutes our anniversary.

It’s not as simple as whether we count the day we met or the day he spent the night and never left.

I clearly remember the following:

  • I met him on a Monday and my heart stood still (Dah Doo Ron Ron Ron Dah Doo Ron Ron). He spent the night (you can read the whole story here).
  • Later that week, Friday, as a matter of fact, I called and invited him to my friend Dave’s “moving away to Seattle” party. He couldn’t make it, but we made plans to get together the next night.
  • At dinner the next night, he mentioned that he was bummed that he was going to miss his niece’s first birthday party in Reno. It was planned for Monday, Memorial Day.
  • I offered to drive him to Reno for the party. And even remember remarking, “Unless you think a week is too soon to be meeting your family.”
  • He stayed the night that Saturday night, and outside of probably less than 15 nights total, we’ve spent every night together for the past 6 years since.

So… If I can read my calendar correctly, Memorial Day 2002 was Monday, May 27th. Which means that we met a week before that, May 20th. The night he stayed with me and never left was the 25th.

Therefore, if we want to have the argument about whether or not we celebrate our first date, or the day he basically moved in, we’d celebrate either the 20th or the 25th.

Why then, does he swear we met on his mother’s birthday, May 10th and he stayed forever on May 15th?

And why, if he feels so adamant about it, did I not receive a single flower, card, comment, or jewelry on either of those days?

I realize we could dispense with the argument by celebrating all of those days… the 10th, 15th, 20th, and 25th, but who the hell can wear that much jewelry?

Happy Anniversary, UMB!

23 Responses to “I Feel a Fight Coming On”
 

OMFG! It’s the same everywhere in any relationship isn’t it?

OK, just in case The Guy passes by here: ours is March 20… so still a long way to go even until 1st year anniversary but just sayin!!! LOL

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DutchBitch wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 2:06 am

 
 

Congratz and Happy Anniversary

Dickiemaxx wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 3:44 am

 
 

I always think of 2/22 as our anniversary since that is when we had our first date (after which there has never been any consideration of anyone else). He prefers to go with 7/17, which was the day 3.+ years later that we had our “domestic partnering ceremony”

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Robguy wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 4:58 am

 
 

LOL Hey at least he remebers. i ask hubby when we met and he goes….um, 1998?

yeah we got married in 98, what year did we *meet*??

At any rate, many happy returns to you and UMB! (He totally should have gotten you flowers!)

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Cissa Fireheart wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 4:59 am

 
 

There is only one way to solve this.

Get married.

You can DO THAT NOW!!!!

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Miss Britt wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 6:04 am

 
 

I second what Britt said!

Happy anniversary!

Avitable wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 6:09 am

 
 

If Queen Elizabeth II can have two birthday celebrations (ceremonial and actual birthday), why can’t you have to anniversary celebrations?

An extra day for partying. :)

Happy anniversary.

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Crail wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 6:31 am

 
 

Happy Anniversary to you and Unky Monkey! You are the most amazing couple and I feel priveleged to have witnessed how cute you are together in person.

No go and get married and make little jestermonkey babies ;).

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Hilly wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 6:56 am

 
 

Oh my goodness. Jestermonkeys. The visual was beyond cute. I can imagine UMB giggling like he is embarrassed by the idea before he wanders off to the other room to take a picture of his penis. The visual, of course, stops there because I certainly didn’t follow him into the other room!

ginamonsters last blog post..This sums it up very nicely.

ginamonster wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 7:08 am

 
 

OMG I totally forgot about that! Yes! What Britt Avi and Hilly say — go get married! And post LOTS of pictures of the ceremony so we can virtually be there…oooh Vlog it!! oh, ok…yeah…I had too much coffee this morning….

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Cissa Fireheart wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 8:06 am

 
 

Happy Anniversary! Oh God so many love stories around today making me all weepy and gushy and generally a mess!

Penelope wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 8:58 am

 
 

Yes, GET MARRIED!!!

BTW, there is nothing that says you have to wear all the jewelry at one time!!!! You don’t need to be Mr. T!

Happy Anniversary!

xxxooo

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DaDuck wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 9:28 am

 
 

*sigh*
My thoughts are best expressed in an enumerated list

1) You can’t have the 25th. It’s MY day bitch! You don’t fuck with the Lee-Mas season! Auntie Lee-Lee is going to put a fuckin Odouls in your stocking!

2) Get fucking married already! (I’ve been saying this to them for years) You bitches haven’t even done the domestic partner registration thing! Hello! You own a house together!! I just think you’re afraid of a little paperwork!

3) I’ve never known you to have an upper limit on the amount of jewelry you can wear. I swear I’m the only ‘mo that doesn’t wear any jewelry. thank goodness I wear lots of make-up!

4) UMB is totally the type that receives (gifts) he’s not that type that gives…

5) Get fucking married already!

Lee wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 10:05 am

 
 

I had the same problem with my ex. We were never able to agree on the actual date. I think you should pick one and stick with it from now on. The exact date is not as important as what it symbolises.

Either way, Happy Anniversary!!! :)
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Colin Brooks wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 10:19 am

 
 

Doesn’t matter if you’re straight or gay. This is always a contentious issue.

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Karl wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 11:31 am

 
 

Just make all of May your anniversary. It will make it easier to remember.

And why ruin a perfectly good relationship by getting married. Just because you CAN do something doesn’t mean you SHOULD.

Killer wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 1:48 pm

 
 

Umm….UMB is totally hot.

Who freaking cares about the date when you’ve got a bf that looks like that!? :)
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adena wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 4:07 pm

 
 

Oh…the misery. I remember a time when all you could think about was me; and now you want to cry over which day to celebrate your anniversary with UMB? Why can’t you go back to me, me, me? ROFL, I forgot how similar our (you and UMB vs. Steve and I) relationship structure was. Remember mine? He came over one night to watch a couple of movies and has yet to leave. That was five years ago as of May 23rd. No matter what happens in the future, that will always be our anniversary. Not a week later when we went on our first date to see a movie at the theatre or the day after when we slept together for the first time (I couldn’t resist, I know…I’m a ho, and I embrace that). It was when we both realized that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. So to that idea and blessing, I wish you both a Happy Anniversary no matter what “date” it becomes. Just be thankful neither of you are still single! Love you both!

toby wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 6:49 pm

 
 

Ack. Rott and I went out, went back to my place, and uh… I think he went home for clothes a couple of days later. In a week, he’d brought over his computer. A month later it was all his belongings. And that day he said fuck it and went and got Skunk (his brother’s cat).

He walked into the house, his brother said “What did you forget?”

Rott said, “Skunk.”

His brother (who hated Skunk) threw the cat in a box, duct taped it shut and thew the box in the back of my Z.

At home, watching Skunk freak out in a new home I told Rott, “Now that you’ve brought the cat here, I guess that means you’re never going home again.”

He looked at me deadpan and said, “Of course, I am. This is home.”

That was 10 years ago in Oct. Or was it Nov…

Happy Anniversary to you and UMB! May you always argue over the date and have hot make up sex after.

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Winter wrote on May 20th, 2008 at 11:09 pm

 
 

Thanks everyone for your wishes.

I am sort of in line of thought with Killer… why ruin a good thing? And until gay marriage is truly legal and recognized federally, I just don’t see assigning ourselves a second-class citizenship label as the way to go.

jester wrote on May 21st, 2008 at 1:18 am

 
 

happy, happy month that you two got together!

celebrate every day. blow jobs all around!!

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hello haha narf wrote on May 22nd, 2008 at 1:57 pm

 
 

Actually jester I think the true mark of acceptance would be the first gay marriage that ends in divorce. Why should only heterosexual couples enjoy the misery of a nasty divorce. i say share the wealth (or misery :) ). Living in Canada where it is legal for gays to marry, the world has not come to an end.

I.P. wrote on May 22nd, 2008 at 5:10 pm

 
 

My wife and I also have different ideas of our starting points. This year marks our 16th wedding anniversary and there’s no argument there. Also, our first real date is in agreement, so no argument there.

But what constitutes when we really started going out is in contest. I count us going out since age 15, since that’s when we first started dating. But we did break up a couple of times, so she counts us starting at a later age.

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whall wrote on May 25th, 2008 at 10:34 am

 

Say something already!



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