Latest Lessons from the Internet

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I’m really tired of keeping my mouth shut. I’ve been watching, horrified, for months while people continue to redefine the term “inappropriate.”

I hate hypocrites.

I loathe arrogance.

I despise people who abuse the trust and insult the intelligence of their readers and friends.

So with that, I present to you the things I’ve learned in a very small dysfunctional corner of the internet:

  • It’s perfectly justifiable to ask your sycophants to contribute to your anniversary fund to buy your husband a motorcycle when unemployment is at record highs, your friends are having their homes foreclosed on, are being laid off from their jobs or struggling with health problems almost sure to bankrupt them.
  • No one will notice this request for money is on a blog full of stories about how much money you make as a super busy writer, how much you spend on your hair, shoes, and trips because you’re just so darn cute and likable!
  • It’s perfectly ok to repeatedly and publicly write stories that paint your spouse in a negative light… stories that make all your fans cluck their tongues and commiserate with you for having to run your household with no help whatsoever, with having to deal with mountains of insensitive slights against you while you play the role of the helpless and innocent damsel in distress.
  • It’s acceptable to peer down your nose and cast judgment on friends who have had an extra-marital affair, even when you are yourself guilty of having an extra-marital affair.
  • It’s “good friendship” to constantly remind your friends of their past mistakes.
  • Refusing to stop seeing the man you cheated with because he is your “best friend” and boss, despite how hurt and angry it makes your husband, is normal and acceptable behavior.
  • Posting photos of your husband with his arm around the man you are cheating with and labeling it “My Boys” is the new funniest thing ever!
  • It’s ok to make everything about yourself, even your family’s bad choices.
  • There are no repercussions for questioning the sincerity of all the friends and strangers who offer you prayers and well wishes.
  • There are, however, repercussions for directly commenting on how shitty questioning that sincerity really is – you get twitter dumped and facebook unfriended.
  • High school rules never go away – you can’t be friends with me because you’re friends with him, and I don’t like him, so you must not like him, or I won’t like you. Or something like that.
  • The best way to control your friends is by hiring them and being responsible for their livelihoods. They won’t disagree with you, they’ll keep your secrets, and they will put up with incredibly inappropriate behavior because they are dependent on your money.
  • Putting other people down and reminding them of their flaws at every opportunity hides how really insecure and immature you are.
  • Your self worth should be tied to your fancy college degree, or lack thereof.
  • Artists and musicians contribute nothing to society, or at least much less than a law degree, whether or not the holder of the law degree actually practices law or uses it in anyway.
  • There’s no reason to think that commenting on every post your girlfriend makes might make her husband feel bad.
  • You should always express your deepest and most private feelings for your married girlfriend via whimsical stories of dragons and princesses, because your readers are far too stupid to ever figure out what you are really talking about.
  • Allowing the people around you to rise above their emotional hurdles and improve their lives is ill-advised because it exposes your own weaknesses and faults.
  • Being kind of a big deal on the internet excuses even the most reprehensible behavior. So does italics.
  • Sometimes, all you need is a dildo with a suction cup attachment and some hand sanitizer to make it all better.

The fact that I ever hung out in that corner of the world wide web makes me feel unclean.

The fact that people will still continue to ooh and aah and heap praise on them makes me sad.

The fact that people will come here and insult me for posting this amuses me, if only because defending the indefensible is normally humorous.

Why is it my business? Because my friends have been forced to defend their friendship with me, as if *I* am the immoral asshole in this equation.

That and I’m already being accused of gossiping. I’d rather be hated for what I’ve done, rather than what people assume I have done.

217 thoughts on “Latest Lessons from the Internet”

  1. Omg who are these people? I want to read their blogs too! Sounds like some serious entertainment value! I have (foolishly) sometimes felt a bit sad that I don’t have a corner of the internet I belong to, I have a blog but I have no blog ‘clique’. Now I’m thinking it’s probably a good thing to be a bit of a blog loner.

    You absolutely must email me the url’s for these people you are talking about, I won’t tell I’ll just read and take in the drama. It’s far too Jerry Springer to keep to yourself!
    .-= Breigh´s last blog ..Hello Oprah? Have I Got A Show For You! =-.

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  3. Time for some housecleaning, that’s all. I have to do it from time to time because who you hang around with is eventually who will be become, I’ve found. And anyway, don’t you think your friendship- what you are offering as a friend- is worthy being a little picky about? That’s the way I look at it. I’ve found it is the only way to have quality relationships- like I’m Mr.Perfect or something. (Hardly.. but deciding your worth has to be a factor, doesn’t it?)
    It is no great shame to reject people who have lost their common values. Trust me, the things you mentioned ARE universally recognized common values and merely your whims. But, I know, it can be quite depressing sometimes.
    One time a person I knew suddenly accused me of making tests for friendship. I was rather astonished. In the end, I suppose he was correct but I must have been doing it unconsciously. From a lifetime of trusting the wrong people too much, too soon and without any cut-off point.
    I think in the end, you have to take responsibility for some of it. If you allow those people to become a part of your life without any limit or judgement, then you simply have to put up with all that sort of cow-poo everyday and “You too? Brutus?” behavior. Good luck to you.

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    • Nomad – I made the conscious decision quite some time ago to stop associating with this corner of the net. I couldn’t in good conscience continue watching the masses get smoke blown up their asses though. Anyone who sticks with them now gets what they deserve.

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  4. I have to be honest. I doubt anyone is going to come here to insult you. I actually think this post isn’t going to be acknowledged at all.

    It’s one of those things that if you pretend it doesn’t exist, well, it just doesn’t exist.

    Then again, I’ve been wrong a lot lately, so who knows.

    Oh, and creative art degrees rock. That is all.

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  5. We may not always agree on stuff — in fact, pretty sure we don’t agree on much as of late — but I’ve always admired your way of speaking your mind and standing your ground.

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  6. I don’t like you and I never will but I just hope this will bring you to a place in the future where you won’t be so quick to call people thieves and liars because a snake with an agenda tells you so.

    So yeah.

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    • Donna – Coincidentally, I don’t like you and never will either. Just because your accusations against the dynamic duo are true now, doesn’t mean they were true then. If you think my problems with you were in any way influenced by the “snake with an agenda” you’re sadly mistaken. Unlike most of the “church” I’m able to think for myself.

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    • Finn – I told myself that if one more person even hinted to me that they had to defend their association with me to one of those hypocritical trashbags that I was done keeping my mouth shut. This has been brewing for more than year.

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  8. Well, actually, my accusations against them were the same then as they are now…so, I don’t know how you come to that conclusion. Also, your accusations against me were untrue and unfounded. That leads me to believe that you are a horrible judge of character.

    I’m done. I’ve said what I wanted to say so I’ll just go now and never return.

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    • I meant your accusations about their affair.

      Untrue and unfounded, you say? Well that just clears everything right up.

      Can we be best friends now?

      No?

      Damn. I’ll just sit in my corner and cry.

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  10. Kudos to you for speaking your mind and not being ashamed or afraid to do so. I wish I was that brave.

    I admire you and your honesty. Thank you for this and while I agree with CP that the post will most likely be ignored, I will have your back if someone does come here to attack you in anyway.
    .-= Sodapoplv´s last blog ..Busy busy! =-.

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  11. Can I just say that I’m quite sad that I never was able to meet you while I lived in Modesto? It’s a shame really, because you? I would’ve liked. (Not that I don’t already like you. And I’m shutting up now.)

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  12. for the record, i have no college degree. everyone knows that and i’ve never had to defend it on any corner of the internet.

    also, i was never made to defend my friendship with you in any manner, nor was i ever told to that i can’t be friends with you by any corner of the internet.

    i’ve always admired your ability to so eloquently speak your mind, defend your position and debate your side of any issue, jester. what i don’t understand, no matter how hard i try, is why you continue to watch and read. you were the one who taught me about the little red x in the upper right corner, yet this is just another in a line of internet drama bullshit events that you stay immersed in. there are plenty of blogs i used to read until i grew tired of the activities so i removed those blogs from my reader and don’t go over there anymore. in my opinion, life is just too short for the hatred.

    i guess what i am getting at is i’m curious if you feel better now that you have aired this out publicly. i wonder if you will keep reading what they have to say? you are a talented writer and i would rather read more about the record contract story, more about your childhood, more about how umb’s tattoo career is progressing or even more about your take on american idol as opposed to reading about who is fucking who in the blogosphere. sure, i also could click the little red x over here, but this type of angry post is not the norm here.

    i hope you know i am not defending anyone, nor was i told that i should or should not comment here, nor was it “suggested” that i should behave in any manner. but honestly, i can’t help but wonder if you would attack me if i behaved in a manner that you didn’t agree with. fuck, i of all people freely admit that i am not perfect so it is probably a matter of time before i piss you off.

    ok, this comment got way long and rambling. didn’t mean for it to. perhaps i should have just emailed or called you. i don’t know. i just know that i don’t get it.
    .-= hello haha narf´s last blog ..What is So Wrong About a Little Sparkle =-.

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    • Hello – Some of your comment I think we should discuss privately, as it is really only relevant to the two of us…

      However I will say this: I stopped actively following them over the summer and only stopped by on rare occasions when someone brought one stupid thing or another to my attention and my curiosity was aroused. Unfortunately, however, that did not stop the drama from being churned in my direction. Despite my lack of interaction with them they could not just leave well enough alone.

      In the same way that vomiting makes you feel better when you’re too drunk, releasing this toxin from my life does make me feel entirely better.

      All I can really say is that if you were to ever intentionally or deliberately insult me or my friends and family, interfere with my daily life/business, or in some way attempt to disparage me, yes, you and I could be at odds. I don’t foresee that being an issue, though, do you?

      If you want to have an affair, go for it… but put on your big girl panties and take responsibility for it. Own it. Don’t project it on others and repeatedly portray yourself to be a victim.

      If you want to build yourself up by assuming and proclaiming that you are superior to everyone around you, that you are above reproach and in some way untouchable, you might want to make sure you aren’t hiding damaging secrets that prove you to be a douchey trashbag.

      Be open and honest and real and you have nothing to hide from or fear.

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  13. I’ve always admired your candor. I wish I could be more like that, but I tend to put my head down and rush past the big brouhaha. When it’s all done and I’m safely out of any line of fire, I sneak a peek at the headlines and shake my head at all the shouting. I suppose it’s ostrichy of me, but meh. I have enough drama at home sadly.

    BTW, I still adore Othurme and his pithy comments. I think of him every time I open the refrigerator and see the bacon…
    .-= Winter´s last blog ..Cold Dreams =-.

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    • Winter – I live a surprisingly drama-free life. Mostly because I surround myself with people who are kind and good and not prone to hypocrisy. It’s a nice way to exist.

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      • It is a nice way to exist. I dislike it when someone slaps a target on me or brings a fight to my door. So rude. I wade through the sludge on occasion as an author. It’s sadly a fact of the promo-go-round. Luckily, hypocrisy isn’t one of many failings. It would probably make my life way more complicated than it already is.
        .-= Winter´s last blog ..Cold Dreams =-.

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  16. This post is brilliant, you have no idea how long I’ve waited for someone to say something. To the point that I thought I was the only one bothered by the bullshit and misrepresentation.

    Sorry for being anonymous but uh, you know how it goes.

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    • Finally! Yeah, I can understand why you would want to remain anonymous. He has intimidated many people into thinking he’s some sort of master of devious revenge. The truth is he’s just an older version of a comic book geek who lives in his mom’s basement furiously masturbating to tranny porn and googling people to see if he can find any dirt on them.

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  18. I have read your blog off and on. Ok, that was not relevant to this comment, but you know I don’t want you to think I’m totally new here.

    Thank you for posting what I think everyone — or a lot– are thinking. By “everyone” I mean those who read her blog. SERIOUSLY?

    I don’t expect an answer to this question, but how in the world does everyone know, or think they know, that they were having an affair? Am I totally that clueless?

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    • Yes, you are clueless but that’s okay. :)

      Some of us know better. Some of us know for a fact there was an affair and most of us know that it wasn’t her first indiscretion either.

      Her husband is a nice guy and obviously a devoted father regardless of how badly she wants to paint him. Why he allows her to make such a fool of him is beyond my comprehension, but it certainly disgusts me.

      Her readers aren’t friends or people who care – all they are to her is ego-feed. Eventually they’ll realize it and she’ll be left where she belongs – alone.

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    • Lin – People know because neither one of them can keep their mouths shut.

      And both of them think so little of their readers that they assume no one is smart enough to add 2+2.

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  19. All I can say is, Amen. Plus, the sycophants who jump in and support this crap are almost just as gross.

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    • Internets are Burning – Sycophants is such my new favorite word. I’m wondering how many of the BLOGHER folks have found their way to this post, and how many of them would be hyper-pissed to find out about all the lies?

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      • No one is going to care, Jes. The women of BLOGHER are Stepford Wives. They just move about the internet with vacant stares, whoring out their kids for profit. I was a part of that community a LONG time ago. Had so much of my work over there. I pulled most of it when I realized that this wasn’t a group of women who supported one another, but rather a cult. One BLOGHER event was more than enough for me to be convinced that I absolutely did not belong with these people. I have never met such a group of phony bitches in my entire life.

        You know they all sit home, popping xanax like pez, ignoring their kids, sleeping with one anothers husbands and having Pampered Chef parties to be able to pay for the internet that saves their fractured lives.

        I bet most of their husbands were thrilled to have them gone for the weekend.
        .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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        • CP – I had a similar experience at a Blogher event. You know Adam’s supposed to do another breakout panel this year. Perhaps he can use this situation as the springboard for discussion.

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  20. Superb list. The high school rules that adults still follow 20+ years after they have been out of high school continue to puzzle me the most. You are a fucking adult… learn to live with others around you, even if you don’t agree on everything.

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        • Lexi – How is that even possible? How could you possibly know what’s going on over there without some inside information? I mean someone MUST have told you because there isn’t anyone in the entire world who might be smart enough to figure this out on their own. Right? I mean, that’s the position they have taken.

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    • Yes, wow. I guess because I don’t have a blog and don’t comment much, I just don’t get invested. However, I have always thought there were weird vibes in that world. I just ignored it because I thought no one would be that blatant.

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    • Penguin Lady – I lived in that small town. And I remember the drama that happened when people started catching on to the fact that I might be gay. It was crazy.

      This is worse. I never lied.

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  25. You know what “I” find interesting? That so many people who are spouting off on other peoples blogs are still going to Britt and Adam’s blog and making nice nice. Why talk shit behind their backs and then pretend to be friends with them? I spoke to each of them personally, let them know where I stood on the matter and addressed it with them directly. I think the people who are making snarky comments here and at a few other blogs but then writing perky little happy posts at their blogs are just as big of hypocrites as the people they are snarking about in the first place.

    Not saying YOU, Jester…because you were attacked on a whole other level that had nothing to do with the whole marriage/motorcycle saga. I get where your coming from.

    As for me, I will remain “friendly”, but I found out the quasi hard way that I am not considered a “friend”. At least, not one that rates.

    I can play nice in the sandbox.

    I am learning the difference this year between friends and acquaintances. It’s been very hard for me to differentiate the two because once you are in my life, you are IN MY LIFE. Apparently, it’s not really meant to be that way.
    .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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    • CP – You are totally in my head right now. I’ve been formulating a post today about the “burden of knowledge” and how people can pretend to look the other way for only so long.

      I’ve been hearing a lot of “I don’t approve, but it’s not my business…” While I understand that stance intellectually, I can’t abide it personally or morally.

      I can’t understand the rationale of continuing to stand in solidarity with those that can do things some anathema-tic to your own core beliefs.

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    • CP – I also can relate to the “thought I was friends but really wasn’t” concept with them. I even blogged about it, because I finally owned up to my self making a big deal out of it because I was so sensitive about it. Like Jester, I got no response.

      Jester – Wow…I dunno what to say. Except that I was clueless, gullible and was shocked at your revelations. I guess I just thought the best of everyone. My parents were hippies, they brought me up that way. I had kinda distanced myself (not that I needed help) from real involvement on those two blogs (and people) after the whole birthday thing went down when I was blatantly hurt, took it personally, and climbed out of it. But yeah, my jaw hit the floor.

      I dunno what this will bring in the future, but I know I am still reading. And that’s all I am doing for now….like watching a TV show waiting to see what the next episode is. But if I miss anything, it won’t affect me. I guess that’s a good thing right?
      .-= Cissa Fireheart´s last blog ..In like a Lion…. =-.

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      • Cissa – I heard about the whole “uninvited” to the party thing. Just further cemented the arrogant and egotistical classification. Chances are, this all coming to light won’t do anything but make all the little soldiers that much more likely to defend and kiss their ass. Oh poor poor babies having your secrets exposed!

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      • Cissa -

        I am so sorry that happened to you. Hell, I am sorry it happened to me. I am even more sorry about the response I got from Adam about it sitting in my email box. I have read it three times, with my mouth agape, not really believing the audacity of the reasons he gave me for my not being included after “saving the date”!

        Part of the explanation, if I may be so bold to reveal (because frankly, I don’t give a fuck) was due to expense. Well, if Adam knew me as well as he claims to, he would have known damn well that I would have paid ANY dollar amount to have been with Britt on such an important and special day. I was also told that I was “too far away”. Um, I’m in Tampa. One hour away from them. It’s not like I haven’t been out to his house before.

        I remember being a real schmuck a long time ago. The gang was having a night out and I read about it the next day. I casually said “Hey, the next time you guys all get together, let me know! I would love to come hang out!” I was met with “really? we didn’t think you would want to drive THIS far away to just hang out for a few hours.”

        I was so fucking hurt by that statement. So hurt. That was nearly a year ago. I should have realized then that I meant nothing to them…but I couldn’t believe that my friendship meant so little to people who always told me they cared about me.

        Live and learn, Cissa.

        Anyway, as I told him, whatever. I’m over it. I won’t FORGET it, by any stretch, but I am over it. And, when I tell someone that I love them and I care about them, I am going to make sure that that love and care is EARNED from now on. I deserve that much from my friends.

        I know about four other people who were very hurt by what happened and haven’t had the voice or the nerve to say something.

        I remember the day of Britt’s party. One of the attendees said to me, “CP, why the hell aren’t you here!? You’re one of us!”

        And I recall thinking…No. I’m not. I’m really not.

        Haven’t looked back since.

        For the record? I care about Adam very, very much. I shouldn’t, but I do. I wouldn’t be remotely as hurt as I was if I didn’t care about him so deeply. As for Britt, well, there is always a part of me that is going to love that girl. She has been supportive of me during some pretty black times in my life. That is the Britt I will always treasure. But, it seems that I really don’t know her as well as I thought I did (and this has NOTHING TO DO with any indiscretions by her. I don’t give a rats ass about that. That’s between her and her husband, no one else.)

        I just feel it is in my best interest to step away, regroup and realize that it is okay to move on without certain people.

        I will probably still read her and Adam, because sometimes, I really enjoy what they have to say. But, I will not give away big chunks of my heart to anyone who doesn’t appreciate my love, my care and my concern.

        I am a very special woman. I am loving and giving to the point of utter exhaustion. I deserve to have my friendship treasured.

        Nothing less.

        /end rant.
        .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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  26. I love CP’s thoughts on this. I know some of us are going anonymous to voice our agreement with you Jester, speaking for one or two of us here we aren’t over there playing nice either. We just aren’t willing to face the shit-ton of hatemail and harassment because there are people who are still delusional enough to think she’s just that “cute and likable” and he’s the “bark worse than bite big ol’ teddy bear who wouldn’t hurt a fly” and think they would earn some sort of high ranking in the clique by defending their blog heroes.

    But, I have long wondered why it is that people claim to be so disgusted by the behavior but still show up every day and spout ass-kissy bullshit in the comments. I think more of the people who watch it like a wreck on the freeway but don’t comment.

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    • It bothers me that people are doing that. They are doing it on my blog as well, leaving little jabs at Britt, probably thinking that is what “I” want to hear. I don’t. I don’t want that. IF you want to use my blog to vent your frustrations on the matter and have me commiserate with you, by all means, jump in. The water is warm.

      I chose to (I don’t want to say “confront” because that sounds so aggressive) speak to Adam and Britt one on one because I felt they deserved that much. Now, do they actually deserve that kind of respect? Who knows. Maybe. Maybe not. But, I am going to remain above board on this one. Britt asked me if I shared any information that she told me with others. I told her that yes, I did, because I thought there were some misconceptions out there that needed to be cleared up. I also thought that other people needed to know they were not CRAZY.

      Some people are being attacked for talking so openly about everything. Well, I’m sorry, but if you are going to air your dirty laundry, expect to get some of the breeze to blow back in your face. I talk about EVERY SINGLE aspect of my life on my blog. My drug addiction. My abortion. My multiple marriages. Losing my nursing license. Getting locked up. I am an open fucking book. Have I ever gotten backlash for it? Better believe it.

      But one thing I have not compromised in all five years of having that blog is the integrity of my marriage and its sanctity. If my husband is being a shit…YOU will not know about it. That is between my husband and myself. Yes, I will talk very candidly about our sex life, our monetary situation and our families. But never, ever will I betray a trust or a confidence about him. I was very discouraged reading Britt talking publicly about her marriage counseling sessions. That is private. PRIVATE, between a husband and a wife.

      And, it was very, very hard to believe she was putting a fuckton of effort into those sessions when she was having an affair. Again, not judging the affair…but definitely judging the going to counseling, giving the world the play by play and all the while, you are making a fool of the father of your children.

      THAT is where she and I differ.

      Fortunately, I am married to the most perfect specimen of a human being on the planet. ;)
      .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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  27. I think a lot of us are just not really involved. In the blogging world a many are quite detached and distant from the whole thing. I have never read Britt’s blog before now but I have read Adam’s and always found it amusing. He’s been nice to me when I’ve asked him something or commented. Beyond that there has been no contact. So while we feel ‘involved’ because we read, there is really no friendship there or relationship. We can voice our shock or disappointment here but it doesn’t really change anything.

    At the end of the day, even though I gasp and ask questions about it because I’m nosy… I don’t feel it’s really my business what goes on behind their closed doors or that I’m in any position to judge them. I am surprised by it and it does change the way I think about them to some degree, as I’ve always felt they were very ‘what you see is what you get’, and obviously that isn’t true. So, even though I totally dig the internet drama and love to sit back and watch. I don’t feel like I have any right to comment on their personal lives.

    I know it’s different for those of you who met them and may have been caught up in the drama behind the scenes yourselves, but I can only speak for myself when I say that I’ll go “Woah holy shit!” and then continue on like I always have.
    .-= Breigh´s last blog ..Hello Oprah? Have I Got A Show For You! =-.

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    • Breigh – I get that there are many out there, probably a majority, who are just casual observers… those people don’t bother me at all… it’s those people who go to the parties and interact on a regular basis and form friendships with the web of people who are involved that bug me.

      I don’t put up with hypocritical bullshit in my everyday, real-outside of the internet life. Why put up with it online?

      It’s not my business until my name gets dragged through the mud, or my friends are put in the position of having to defend my honor or friendship. Then your hypocrisy and bullshit come into play.

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      • Yeah that would irritate me too. If there are people who are involved personally and are part of the relationships that are involved, they should either keep quiet or stick to their guns and stand by their position. I see that in RL quite often too, people talking badly about people and then acting nice to their face. I’m not really like that as I find it hard to hide the way I feel and if someone does something I don’t like I’ll tell them.

        What bothers me most is that when I am honest I get all the shit, but the person who plays nice is liked by everyone. Then I’m left there screaming in my head BUT THEY ARE NOT NICE, DON’T LOVE THEM! They are liars!

        So yeah, I definitely get where you are coming from.
        .-= Breigh´s last blog ..Hello Oprah? Have I Got A Show For You! =-.

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  28. So that’s what happened to Amy! I knew it was a matter of time before she either kicked Britt out her life or gave her her leftovers heh. Thank you for filling in the blanks about these two. Surprisingly, I wasn’t shocked and am very thankful I can despise them and not feel guilty about it anymore. Poor kids and Nutless Jared.

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  29. I hear they have blamed and disowned someone who thought she was their friend. I also hear they are being nasty to this friend who kept their secrets for so long. Class acts, the both of ‘em.

    They should leave the Internet. They are disgusting people who should recognize that losing more than one group of friends means that you might be a toolbox.

    But hey, it’s easier to blame others.

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    • Disgusted – They HAVE blamed someone else… and while I feel bad about that, I can’t do much to fix it. The fact is I’ve known the situation for a very long time. It took about an hour of spending time with the dynamic duo to see what was what. But rather than confront ME they are going after someone who they incorrectly assume is emotionally crippled and vulnerable and unable to fight back.

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  30. I really love how the two toads haven’t publicly said anything about this post or others yet. They’ve always been so quick to jump online and rip someone a new one when something is said that they don’t like and with this there’s silence.

    And her “My Boys” photo? I saw that and my jaw literally dropped. What a delusional twat. I hope Jared grows a pair and kicks her nasty ass to the curb someday soon.

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    • Jared standing up for himself and his kids could be the only thing that ever drives any sense into her. She really does think she is above it all and why wouldn’t she when all Jared does is take humiliation after humiliation in their lives and in her blog???

      I think there is more to come. I think they have had loose lips for awhile now and have been mean to others. I think more people know things and now all those people are talking about all sorts of things. Jester you said it best when you said they should have been nicest to the ones who knew the most.

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      • Get a Backbone – I’m not sure there is any recovery from this point… they claim that counseling is doing wonders, but I can’t imagine any counselor ever allowing the boyfriend to interact with the couple on a daily basis. There is no doubt in my mind that I don’t have the whole story… just in the past couple of days I’ve learned many many other stories that are just as scandalous… They’ll all come out eventually. Whether or not it makes a difference. Who knows?

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    • Peeking – They haven’t confronted me because they have no leg to stand on… there was nothing but truth posted. Plus, if they confronted me, they wouldn’t be able to try and destroy a third party that they thought they had some sort of control over. The day that “My Boys” photo went out on Flickr I almost choked. I hadn’t been following either of them online in a long time, but forgot to take her flickr stream out of my reader… oy vey. I don’t think Jared is ever going to grow a pair on his own. She’s got him so henpecked and gunshy from years of destroying his self esteem… her blog would be all the evidence he needs to get custody of the kids and leave her.

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  31. I think it takes a lot of courage to post what you feel. And I commend you with having the balls to do that. I always thought that being an adult means you get to choose who you want to be friends with, and don’t need any reason for it other than you get along. It sucks when people get caught in the cross fire and it causes collateral damage.

    Oh, I’m not new to your blog, but this is my first comment. And I like the way you write.

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    • Becky – Being an adult also means owning your mistakes and issues and not crucifying other people for things you have done yourself. It means taking responsibility for all the hurt and pain you cause the people around you. It also means realizing that even though you THINK your actions don’t affect anyone else, they actually affect everyone around you.

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  32. I think what I find the saddest is how some people have been isolated and blamed for what is, clearly, not their own issue. The two parties involved need to own what has happened and move forward from it.

    As for bad talking Jared over here, I don’t think that’s any more proper than ya’ll accusing her of bashing him on her blog.

    One thing I’ve learned is that what ya’ll think of me is none of my business. And what I think of you is none of yours. However, when others get hurt in your melee, that’s when I will distance myself and watch from afar, which is basically what I’ve been doing until now.

    I agree with CP that there will be no judgment from ME about the indiscretions in her marriage. That’s between her and her husband.

    If so many people were disgusted and hated them, why would they read their blogs to begin with?

    I’m not saying this stuff to cause more ruckus or bring on hate mail to me, but damn.

    I applauded you for your honesty and bravery in posting this and I stand by it.

    I also applaud Britt and Adam for NOT addressing this in a public forum. It shows a little bit of maturity if you ask me.

    While they may have made mistakes and done stupid shit (who hasn’t?), I don’t know the whole story. I was not there. While I know you have first hand accounts of it, *I* do not. I am not emotionally invested in this whole thing.

    I have NO clue where this comment was going, I just wanted to throw in some more thoughts.
    .-= Sodapop´s last blog ..Reformatting the hard drive =-.

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    • Sodapop – I don’t think any is talking badly about Jared here. I think we all feel sorry for him. Actually, I keep vacillating between feeling pity and thinking he’s an idiot. One of the main reasons I got so mad and felt the need to vent was watching the constant characterization of Jared as this awful person who treated his wife like a slave and “did horrible things” in the marriage when I knew what was really going on.

      I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: I don’t give a rat’s ass about who’s having an affair… it’s about the arrogance and the ego and the superiority complex and the two-faced shit talking lies. The affair is incidental.

      And don’t think that not addressing it publicly shows any maturity or growth… seeing the private emails that are flying around would remove all pretenses of that.

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      • Agreed on all counts.

        It’s not mature not to address it. Rather, it is childish. It reminds me of little kids who cover their eyes with their hands and believe that the world really disappears.

        If you close your eyes to it, it simply ceases to exist.

        That’s not the grown up way of doing things.
        .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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    • I agree with you regarding bad mouthing Jared. While I know he isn’t perfect either, he certainly does not deserve anything other than empathy. This whole indiscretion is being force fed down his throat. I was made to understand that Jared is entirely okay with Britt and Adam continuing their professional relationship and friendship. While I would TRULY like to believe that, I can’t. I honestly believe that if he were allowed to vent in a completely safe environment where there would be no chance of repercussion, that Jared would probably admit to this hurting him a great deal. However, I do know he loves his wife very, very much. More than that, I know he adores and loves his children. He is probably afraid of losing both.

      If this is working out for them though, more power to them. Wouldn’t fly in my house, I can assure you of that. But, to each their own. They have to live their lives as they see fit. So, while we can all speculate as to whether or not Jared should “grow a pair” and leave her, there ARE children…BEAUTIFUL children, involved. I would hate to see that relationship with his children destroyed based on the indiscretions and bad choices of the adults in their lives.

      I’m spent for tonight. My head is just reeling.
      .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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    • I would like to think Jared is smarter than you all give him credit for and that he is just sitting back waiting for the money to roll in so he lay down some cash on a new bike and ride off into the sunset without her.
      .-= othurme´s last blog ..Hey Everybody! =-.

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      • Othurme – I’ve said in other forums that if the collection on her blog was for Jared to leave and take the kids with him, I’d send every spare dime I had. Hell, I’d probably throw a fundraiser with the band on a cruise ship.

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    • I have felt bad for Jared since I started reading her blog and watching Adam glue himself to their marriage. Amy as well. Search Adam’s Flickr account for Amy’s 30th birthday compared to Britt’s, it’s disturbing. I called him nutless out of anger because HE CHOOSES TO PUT UP WITH THEM. Doesn’t change my feelings for him though. Also, Jared is hotter than Jason Stackhouse and that mfer is HAWT. He could do so much better and deserves it. The last shred of hope I held out for Britt died when she made her brother, his girlfriend & their unborn child’s lives about her and ran that girl off her own blog. AND while I’m venting, I knew Hilly’s days were numbered in that group when she got a book deal before Britt. Btw, GO HILLY! Britt is a bully who sold her soul for a few dollars and mac makeup and her readers are waiting for the day the train wreck crashes and burns. Train wrecks are kinda of a big deal on the Internet ya know. Jared got his Harley from her readers because people feel so damn bad for him. /scattered rant.

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      • Sam – I agree, Jared is pretty hot and shouldn’t have any trouble landing himself someone slightly less crazy. Hopefully, enough donations come in to add a side car and some child-sized helmets so they can take off together.

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  33. I have read both blogs for a while and it was the princess and dragon post that make stop and think, “Hello, doesn’t he have a wife?” I know if my husband wrote a public love letter to another woman that our marriage would not last much longer and whatdayaknow- his didn’t!

    It’s almost sick how much in love with her he is and we all know that she will never leave her “GQ” husband for the likes of Adam, no matter how much weight he loses or how many pants he puts on. People need not worry about giving Britt money for a motorcycle for her husband that she belittled and seemly hated not that long ago because Adam will pop in buy that bike for him (can we say dysfunctional co-codependency?) and then we all be graced with the post “Adam bought Jared a motorcycle!” with pictures no doubt (and then the comments of how great Adam is will follow). Those are things you do when you love someone, not just because they are your best friend. Both me and my husband have close friends of the opposite sex and neither one of us would use so much of our time and resources on “our best friends.”

    I, too, am guilty of keeping my mouth shut and staying in the shadows when they did/say something I disagreed with out of fear of the shit storm that would ensue because their “church” is large and can be very hateful and it was and is just easier to say to myself, “Damn.” Plus, some people in their church I do like and didn’t want to cause a riff between the people I like because I disagreed with Britt and Adam and wanted to call them out on their bullshit. But at the same time, I am not leaving cutesy comments on Britt and Adam’s blogs either.

    Jester, you have just said what many of us were thinking. What you did in writing this, was a good thing. You brought to light many of the things we were thinking but also thinking, “It can’t be, really?” I guess really it *is* after all.

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    • I will say this much.

      While I was suspicious for awhile due to things I had observed at the last Halloween party, it was the Dragon and the Princess post that pushed me over the edge.

      That was written by a man in love. Smitten.

      Had I ever found that my husband had written that to another woman, even if that woman is his best friend, it would have broken my heart.

      As I have told Jester in an email, I could get past my husband being balls deep in some other chick WAY before I could get past him having an affair of the heart with her. Those words? Those are words that are shared between people who are in love.

      I had an affair on my ex husband over a decade ago. He told me, in no uncertain terms, that when he found out I was sleeping with this other man, he was willing to go to counseling and move on. It was only when he found an enormous amount of love letters that went back and forth between us that he knew our marriage was over. While he could get the thought of me being naked with another man out of his head, he could not get the carefully selected, loving words from my letters out of his mind.

      It’s a sad situation all the way around for everyone involved…and those who were forced to be involved even when they didn’t want to be.
      .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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      • CP – I was seriously hoping that the Dragon and Princess post would have blown the lid off everything. There was a comment on that post that alluded to the real story (I got blamed for that comment, btw… wasn’t me, as you know, I’m an out in the open kind of guy.) but nothing came of it. That was like the crowning piece of corn in a shit pile.

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          • CP – That didn’t stop them from accusing me…. and going so far as to track the IP address down to some hotel in Los Angeles… then called the hotel to see if I was registered there. I wasn’t.

  34. CP- you made a good point. How can Jared be ok with this? When a man is so clearly in love with your wife, how do you let her remain friends with him? Either the man would have to go or the wife. And how as wife, do you make your husband pose with the man who you cheated with? Wow. Talk about having balls. Miss Britt has balls, that’s for sure!

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  35. Wow. I was updating my feedreader and just got back to your site.

    Wow. Again. Have I had my head up my ass for the last year or what ? Apparently so. I blame widowheimers. And booze.

    At any rate, I’m all caught up now.

    And besides some lines I read on another friend’s blog a few minutes ago, this is the best thing I’ve heard in a while….

    “Life’s too short to pussyfoot around.”

    A Fucking men.
    .-= Kim´s last blog ..D-Day …… =-.

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  36. These two people are not well liked, even though they think they are.

    I think it’s wonderful that they found each other.

    There’s nothing cuter than two douche bags in love.

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  37. Just noticed that the quota has been met on Jared’s bike purchase. I have to shake my head and laugh a little, but not a funny, ha ha kind of laugh. Rather a sad laugh.

    All over blogs, I am reading how people are losing their houses, have very sick children to care for, don’t have health insurance and can’t afford to get to a doctor…and the internet is buying a bike for Jared.

    I know she feels she is doing this for him. Her logic to me was, (and I am paraphrasing here) “people are sending me stuff anyway, why not let them send it to Jared for something HE wants instead?” And, I totally get that in her minds eye, she feels this is a gracious and selfless act.

    It isn’t. I hope, before that bike gets purchased, that they both (Jared and Britt) reconsider the purchase and opt to donate that money to a children’s hospital or Haiti, something to that effect.

    In essence, if you pick it apart, people are being rewarded for someone having sex with another persons husband.

    I have a theory about that, but because I am choosing to remain a lady, I am keeping it to myself. But yeah…sex for profit is what it boils down to.

    And quite honestly? This makes me angry.

    I was hoping that when I went to her, heart in my hands, and explained to her just how tacky requesting money from your readers is, that she would have reconsidered and taken the post down, published a retraction, something to that effect.

    And this, boys and girls, is where I lost my respect for her. NOT for the affair…but for the pandering for money from her hapless readers who will do anything in the world to be liked by her. That’s taking advantage of peoples good natures and it sickens me to the core.

    I am still going to hold out hope, mad hope, that the old Britt I once knew is going to put up a post that she opted to donate the money to a charity of Jared’s choosing.

    If not, every time Jared rides that bike, he will have to understand that he got it because someone else rode his wife.
    .-= CP´s last blog ..This Old House. =-.

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  38. I have no doubt that the only follow up post will be a picture of the two of them grinning broadly while she straddles the bike and he is too happily oblivious to see that it’s just a metaphor for her straddling Avitable. Don’t think for a second there won’t be something funny about helmet hair and how they didn’t have a helmet in her favorite color.

    I get some of the hurt I’ve seen exhibited here in the comments but believe me, your hope is unfounded. She has long passed the point of no return and there is absolutely nothing that will make her see herself as more than a hapless victim in the web she’s spun herself.

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    • Finally! How about a picture flip book set to “Oh the Places You’ll Go” with all the pictures. Wonder how much a sidecar that can hold Adam will cost?

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  39. Holy buuuuuuurn, CP!

    I laughed at Sam because lots if us said the same thing about Hilly’s book deal. You have to be blind to not see that Hilly has talent wheras Britt has italics.

    There’s a difference between staying silent because you are classy and then because you know you’ve been caught. You be the judge on who is what.

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  40. seriously? OMFG~ a sidecar~ now i have coke dripping off of my monitor~ it didn’t take long for that 3K to be made~~wonder how much adam chipped in?

    i’ve been meaning to post here several times jester, but i end up closing the window before i get the comment done

    i’m really, really glad you posted this~wasn’t she the one who was raising hell when mr fab left fla on your radio show or was she just on there raising hell that night
    {i just remember she was very drunk and kept calling herself “a cross eyed whore”}
    i’m just repeating what i remember her saying over and over~ it was the first time i ever heard her voice {and if you remember my freaking southern drawl i’m not picking}

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    • Charlene – Yes, she did raise a lot of hell on my radio show during the Fab/Turnbaby debacle. She seems to have forgotten. Good thing it’s all saved on tape for history.

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  41. OMFG~~ i haven’t read all the comments that were posted today

    clearly they are re {i just can’t type that R word out of respect for redneck mama
    god love CP and i agree w/ jester about not enough tranny porn

    from a former dragslave to miss gay arkansas ’84, 82, and drag slave to too many drag queens in 93, 94 and 95

    god i really can’t believe i’m fiftyfuckingtwo years old

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    • typo {like anyone would care but}
      drag slave to miss gay arkansas 84 and 92

      the founder of miss gay america was from Little Rock{he sold the franchise in the late 90′s}
      i just loved norman/norma to pieces! he let me in the gay bar before it was “cool” to let in straight people~ that’s a benefit of living with 5 gay guys when 2 of them are drag queens i guess
      so i was involved in helping them get in the pantyhose and make sure they were tucked well also

      damn, i hope amy is using her law degree to make adam pay through the nose for this~~i had to reread the comments again~
      just WOW clearly someone is not thinking clearly
      night~

      good catching up w/ya jester even if it was a one way conversation with myself LOL
      peace, love and all that shit

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  43. There are children involved here. Regardless of your opinion over the actions or characters of the parties involved, I find it very tasteless to do this. This is a family, and somehow, that couple have found a way to try to work through mistakes. Regardless of knowing them or not, I think any family that is not harboring child abuse or domestic violence or something of that sort, that can manage to stay intact, even in the face of trauma, is a wonderful thing.

    This post was wrapped up in a pretty package of righteous indignation…but what you just did? Did not make ANYTHING better. In fact, for the one person it *seems* like you are defending, you just added a shit-ton of humiliation. I don’t understand it….because the post *seemed* to be about the indiscretion, but judging by a couple of your responses to comments, it was *really* more about you being pissed off about reports of mutual friends feeling like they have to choose between the two camps. And, I don’t know you, but that seems selfishly motivated. That’s disappointing to me, because you and I have mutual friends that I just adore.

    I just don’t think that things of this nature are anything that *need* to be announced by anyone other than the parties involved. I’m not saying slap them on the back for a job well done…but some things are not meant for public discourse…especially when children are involved…unless brought up by the people involved.

    This is exactly why I was afraid the full first two years I blogged….I was terrified someone would do exactly this to me over a poor choice I made in my past. Eventually I just put it out there myself because the anxiety was killing me. But that was my choice, and if it was something like this, I probably would not have, out of respect for everyone else involved.

    I don’t know. I just think this was wholly unnecessary hurtful…in particular to someone that even you say is an innocent party, and though they are currently unaware, the true innocents in the whole situation-the kids.

    Two wrongs do not make a right.
    .-= Angel Smith´s last blog ..Welfare check. =-.

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    • Angel- I actually don’t find it tasteless. Jester was bringing to light what many of us already thought but were unsure of. What I find is tasteless- if we are talking about what her kids could possibly grow up and read and find hurtful- is that Britt makes everything so public in her life, down to the belittling of her husband, the counseling sessions to get her marriage back on track, the hatred she felt when finding out that she was going to have a niece or nephew “You just know it’s gonna be a boy!”. She puts her life out there and 99.9% of the time, she has her readers leaving her “it’ll be ok” type comments only for her to respond with comments such as “Really? Will it really be ok?” I have, on several, occasions wanted to reply, “Damn Girl, they were just offering you support and you kind of just slap them in the face with it.” But again, not wanting cause a feud between “them” and me, I didn’t say anything.

      I find it tasteless that Britt has written some pretty nasty things about the father of her children, and then asks her readers to help purchase a motorcycle for him. It’s like, “yeah, he was douche bag before, but now he’s all better and our marriage is wonderful. He deserves a cookie for all his hard work and putting up with me!” It was tasteless to read about “her first comma” then to turn around and ask for more money and even saying in that post that she makes money off her reader’s everyday from the ads that she runs!

      And to Cissa- I saw on her blog today that she wants to fill up your self esteem tank. Please don’t fall for it girlfriend, she is doing that simply to make herself feel better. It’s not for you. I’ve seen it time and time again by girls like her, she feels like shit right now because she was called out on her bullshit and in some small part to start to fix what went wrong, she wants to help “one of the little people” do not fall for it! Stay strong. She showed you who she really was when you tired to befriend her months ago, don’t fall for her latest trick to get you try to be her friend again. It’s about her and how she is feeling right now, it’s not about you and wanting to be friends with you.

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      • But see, that is HER marriage. HER choice as far as what she wants to talk about. It may be a valid point to say, what about her husband, but that’s between the two of THEM. Very few people talking here, if any at this point, have any clue what the two of them agree upon with regard to what she says on her blog. And since it’s THEIR marriage, it’s really none of any of our damn business.

        Bitching about your own husband, and putting someone ELSE’S marital problems and indiscretions out there, are two very different things, in my opinion. I don’t know Jester. All I know is he has friends that I am proud to call my own friends, as well. And because I value their judgment of character, I’m disappointed that he felt the need to go there.
        .-= Angel Smith´s last blog ..Welfare check. =-.

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        • Angel – We’re going to just have to disagree here… because the minute you hit publish on the post that talks about how awfully you’ve been treated by your husband, you open the facts for judgment and perusal. You want people out of your business, DON’T POST IT. And for god’s sake if you DO post it, make sure you’re telling the TRUTH.

          I’d much rather have people discussing my shit out in the open then whispering it behind my back. But maybe that’s just me.

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        • Angel- If it’s none of our business, why does she share it with us? She is kind of making it our business, no? Some people get really invested in the people and posts that they write and when people become invested in your life (actually consider someone a friend via a blog), you have made your life their business by default, no? Jester publishing their dirty laundry may not have been very tactful, but I do believe tack is for pussies, no?

          But like Jester said, we may have to agree to disagree.

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          • Way to Go – Apparently the saying “Tact is for Pussies” is only ok if you’re talking about dead people, Hitler, or generally being offensive.

    • Angel Smith – You’re absolutely right – there ARE children involved here. Children that are having their entire lives play out on the internet. Children that will have to grow up and read how mommy’s dreams of world-wide travel and fame are destroyed by an early marriage. Children that live in a house where the adults are acting like horny petulant 16 year olds.

      When you live you life on the net, you open your life up for public opinion. It’s no different than an actor/musician/athlete getting caught with their hands in the pants of their best friends. When you can broadcast your life openly and chose to gloss over the sticky parts, you can’t be surprised when the sticky parts come to light.

      It’s a natural human reaction to look up to and admire those people you read on a daily basis. You feel like you’re getting to know them as people and count them as friends.

      It sucks when you discover those people aren’t as wonderful as you thought.

      So you can think this is wrong, it won’t hurt my feelings. Call me self-righteous. Call me whatever you want… but know that *I* am not being hypocritical. I’m not lying to the world. AND? I’m not taking advantage of the sheeple who read me.

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      • I kinda think that whole “she put it out there” is a cop out, really. Just like I think that celebrities have the right to keep some things personal, but the media disagrees and prys into every aspect of their lives.

        I’m not perfect. I fuck up regularly. I hope that when I do again, and I’m sure I will because that’s what people do, the fact that I blog doesn’t mean that people think they have the right to toss the things I have done that don’t represent the best parts of me around like this. And I hope the same thing for you, Jester, and everyone else who blogs.

        We just see this differently, and that’s okay. I didn’t expect to change minds. This is your space, and I respect that. For me, even when I have been *personally* wronged, I’ve tried really hard to blog about it without attacking anyone else or putting personal details out there..and they were my details to tell. It takes all kinds, and I have a hard time judging anyone by their mistakes, alone any more than by their successes, alone.

        But that’s me. :)
        .-= Angel Smith´s last blog ..Welfare check. =-.

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        • Angel – It’s not a cop out. If you tell you business in public you can’t simultaneously be upset that people know your business. If you spend your time building yourself up at the expense of everyone around you, and you garner sympathy for your life by misrepresenting yourself, then you’re in danger of having someone expose you for the fraud that you are. And you’ve got no one to blame but yourself. Pointing your finger at me and judging me doesn’t change that fact…

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          • It’s late here and maybe I am misreading that last sentence, but I’m not judging you. I’m not judging *anyone* and that is a big part of my point. Not judging someone for their mistakes is not the same as approving of them. But I think I may have mistook the context, so disregard if so.

            I think the attraction to blogging, for me, is that I get to tell my story, but on MY terms. I can share what I want to, and hold back what I want to. None of us share every piece of ourselves with our readers…we don’t even share every part of ourselves with the people we see every day. I don’t think that telling the world about what I choose to tell them gives them the right to demand access to every single other facet of me. I don’t understand bashing someone for sharing so much, and at the same time, criticizing them for not putting every single truth out there.

            It takes a lot more strength to stay and try to make it work when something like this happens. I don’t understand wishing a family would fall apart. If that couple has found a way to forgive and move on, who the hell are any of us to hold a grudge?

            Call me a sheep, or immoral, or whatever you want….(Funny how I see people saying how they didn’t speak out on the other blogs in question out of fear of backlash….and I’ve had a bit of mud slung at me for dissenting here. Not by you Jester, I think you’ve been similarly respectful towards me. Just making note that that street runs both ways.)….I’m just a woman. A woman who has made mistakes, and seen other people do the same. A woman who knows her place….and it’s not casting judgment on anyone, but ME. I’m not saying keep people around that you don’t feel are compatible with your value systems. You *have* to weed friends out when the relationships just won’t work. But as for me, I try to let grace lead me when people in my life disappoint me, and if nothing else, just rise above it. I don’t think being pissed off at something someone else did gives me an excuse to behave with any less dignity and maturity than I would otherwise. Or would try to, anyway. Lord knows sometimes I fail miserably at being the woman I want to be.

            I’m certainly not going to attack or insult anyone who happens to disagree with me, even if I don’t understand their position. And if any of you guys ever mess up and find yourselves in the midst of a shitstorm, at least you know this girl won’t be slinging the mud your way, either.

            Agreeing to disagree does seem to be the way to go here. I’m saddened by the whole situation, and I am praying that everyone who has been hurt in any way by any part of all this can find peace, and let go, and move on.
            .-= Angel Smith´s last blog ..Welfare check. =-.

          • Angel – My last sentence was directed at the “you” in general, not *you* in the specific. I think the point you are missing is that the stories that are being written and published aren’t truthful and honest. It’s all a house of cards of misdirections and misrepresentations… and there are people who read and make judgment calls about opening their lives and secrets and WALLETS based on facade. The hypocrisy of treating “friends” with contempt for doing the things you are yourself guilty of is unconscionable. Falsely characterizing your husband as a a cheat to garner sympathy from leagues of sympathizers is reprehensible. The kids can’t read that and think it’s true? Even if the kids don’t read it, the house is full of people coming and going who regularly read the blog, how long before one of them slips and says something? I’ve said it several times and I’ll keep repeating it: I don’t care about people having an affair. I care about hypocrites getting away with shitty behavior, and worse, being rewarded for it.

  44. I was going to keep my mouth shut and say absolutely nothing about this but I feel like I should say *something* since my name keeps getting dragged around here.

    1.) I am not humiliated. People can say whatever they want to say about me wherever they want to say it. I know who I am and none of this drama, which will die down soon enough, can change where I am and what I am doing with my life.

    2.) I am someone who is NOT fond of this post at all. Jester knows it and most other people know it as well. I think this did nothing but stir up unnecessary drama and yes, unfortunately it put me on the defensive for something that quite honestly has nothing to do with me. Please make no mistake though, I am not pulling out a victim card or flashing it for the world to see. What’s done is done and quite frankly, my story has many more chapters than what is public knowledge.

    3.) I am dealing with my end of this in private channels. I am learning new things every day and have found people that I can talk to. I am not trying to be a bitch here at all but I would really appreciate it if we stop making this about me and talking about me here in this post. I want nothing to do with this, despite what others may be saying behind my back.

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    • Hilly – It sucks that people think they have to blame you for this post. It sucks that you were in the position you were in. It sucks that instead of confronting ME they felt the need to try to destroy you. Whatever. What’s done is done, and the fact that this is now out in the open means the wound can get all the pus squeezed out and heal up. And maybe the zombie army of followers will think twice before giving up any more of their hard-earned money.

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  49. Well well well, I knew it wouldn’t be long until most of you wanted to un-ring the bell and say her life doesn’t effect me, so I don’t care blah blah, and Jester you suck because you didn’t think about her kids. It is the Internet and it never changes. Some of you are just two faced, some of you just want Britt’s approval so bad you’d sell your own soul for it and some of you know to remain neutral or else get your hands slapped by two of the biggest bullies on the net. Or worse loose your place at he cool table, which isn’t cool at all. Jester the backlash is coming and I wish you luck. You are the only one in this crowd with any morals and that is a good and dangerous thing.

    The reason I’m so upset by Britt and Adam is as follows:

    1. They didn’t think about the kids. Not Jester’s kids to think about, but it’s not him who didn’t think of the kids, that was their MOTHER!
    2. She did it for MONEY.
    3. She all but ruined her husband’s reputation as a good father and husband.
    4. She didn’t ruin her own with something called the TRUTH.
    5. She fucked another woman’s husband and ruined her marriage.
    6. She treats Adam and Jared like they’re her whipping boys and nothing else.
    7. Adam fucked another man/friend’s wife and chanced ruining their kids home.
    8. They put each of you in the middle when they invited you to Amy and Jared’s homes. It’s none of your business until they make it your business by making you feel like shit for going along with their affair without opening your mouth unless it’s to fill it with food and booze bought by the spouses.
    9. Together Britt and Adam crushed anyone who didn’t think they were awesome and dared to say so.
    10. They held their noses in the air and treated everyone not worthy of their time like shit. Including several of you that are now OK with everything because it’s none of your business and she paid you a little of attention. How fucking desperate are you for friends bytheway?
    11. They continue to be “friends” and coworkers while her husband watches them all but fuck in front of him. When was the last time your friend/boss upstaged your spouse on your birthday and holidays? A FUCKING PROM after the affair? Tell me he doesn’t love her and isn’t hoping to have her all the while smiling in Jared’s face. You aren’t that dumb, so stop acting like you are!
    12. She refuses to move her family as far away as possible from Adam because SHE DOES IT FOR THE MONEY!
    13. She makes EVERYTHING about her except what is about her. I feel sorry for her family, I really do.

    I don’t wish anything bad on these people and I’m far more upset by this then I should be, but at the same time, they need to cut the shit because guess what? THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED! Also Jared is being shit on and stepped on by these two and I can’t stand a bully. Especially those who use kids against their father to fuck their boss/best friend for money IN HIS FACE. Or one who takes ill deserved money from the woman he forgot when Britt walked in the door. They are disgusting and since they can blog about EVERYONE else they need to blog about themselves and be honest for change. They won’t because she knows if people knew the truth about her, yup you guessed it, she’d loose all the money and gifts. It’s all about the money with her and that is NOT OK!

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  50. I’m not much for I told you so’s with my friends, everyone makes mistakes. I am all over I told you so’s with immoral, bullying liars who treat their readers as if they were morons.

    I told all of you so 2 friggin’ years ago.

    Britt offers up her kids and husband like a sacrificial offering to the net to make money, gain fame, feed her ego and get non-stop attention. She doesn’t deserve to be defended. She has many times blogged about how honest and honorable and moral she is. I remember lots of posts about what a good little Catholic girl she is. She is so egotistical she sees her readers as a means to an end…an end that ends in her favour. She uses them and then abuses their trust.

    It’s nobodies business? Really? Nope, she made it EVERYBODIES business with non-stop blogging about her poor pitiful life and her spineless, passive-aggressive husband (not my words…hers.)

    She seriously cannot fathom why begging for money is wrong. She does not get it and that money will never be returned to the donators or be used for charity.

    She doesn’t get that she spends an inordinate amount of time bragging about her clothes, shoes, car, house, comma, ads, hotel reviewing and who knows what else. She is no better than a fucking prostitute. She sells herself for money at the expense of her dignity…which she finds is overrated.

    You want to know how she feels about the sanctity of marriage? She posted on FB once that she was going to wear a ring an advertiser sent her to replace her wedding ring which was broken. I don’t know about anyone else but my wedding ring is my dearest possession and I would be devastated if it were lost. If it was merely broken, I would have it repaired. If it couldn’t be repaired, it would be my husband’s place to replace it. Not Kay friggin Jewelers. She doesn’t hold her marriage sacred at all. And she is an adulteress to top of her high regard for her marriage…all the while making vague illusions to Jared having cheated on her and how much that hurts her.

    Defend her? Why would you even want to?

    As for Adam, he is a braggart who believe that money equates to class. He finds it amusing to flaunt his “wealth” and acts as it it’s supposed to impress people. He insults the intelligence of the people who read his blog nearly daily. He is a pig who thinks shock value trumps real humour. He is a bully who has repeatedly run over his “friends” with the Adam and Britt bus.

    Someone said this post does no good. I beg to differ. It’s a warning. It serves as a warning to any other person willing to be trampled on by them in return for being let into the “in-crowd.” I’ll tell you what did no good…when Adam threw Heather under the bus regarding her domestic violence issues allowing his sycophants to call her a whore and an asshole. He claimed it was for her own good but I want someone to tell me, what good came out of that horrible post he wrote? What honour was in it?

    I stand amazed that people still are all, “I had no clue!” and because so many people still have no clue, this post can stand as a warning.

    The fact their brand of damage control is to publicly ignore it is not mature. Mature people own their shit. Mature people would apologise to their readers for misleading them. I very clearly recall the shit both Adam and Britt spewed when Brad had his affair which ended his marriage…I remember it well. I remember how they expected him to tell them everything as if it was their right to know. I remember the sense of betrayal they seemed to experience.

    But now it’s them and it’s nobodies goddamned business, right?

    Meh. I have no vested interest in the crap they call their lives but I am ragingly angry that people are being hurt by them and people will continue to be hurt by them and that they continue to lie and deceive. And it makes me angry that they act as if they are so special and wonderful and lovable all the while their fucking over whomever gets in their way. And people continue to love them.

    So this post does no good? I think not. If one person can at least be made to give over the hero worship and see them as the flawed people they are, then it’s done exactly what it should do.

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  51. PS: I still don’t really like you but you’ve come a long way in my esteem. What you said about me had no merit whatsoever…especially because you were dead wrong…but at least you are making some attempt at possibly helping some poor soul from being used and deceived by them.

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    • Donna – We totally don’t have to be butt buddies or anything, but apparently there is apparently some truth to “the enemy of my enemy is my friend.” I’m ok with being moderately disliked. heh.

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  52. Don’t worry, Sheila…I don’t think you’ll be picking up a paper and seeing, “THIS JUST IN! Paul and Donna..BFFs wearing matching hoodies!”

    And while I am a huge grudge holder, I’m much better with a half-assed apology than none at all. I also am down with making mistakes that you wish you’d never made and I don’t begrudge a person making a mistake when the harm was only to me an no one else.

    And I absolutely adore being right and innocent of all charges and rubbing it in his bitchy little face.

    Since I got that chance, I’m all over forgiveness. Heh.

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    • Donna – So that’s a no on the hoodies, then? Fuck.

      How about this — I do apologize for my part of the proportions to which our previous disagreements were blown. As for the validity of those arguments more than two years later, I can only say were they real and valid to me at the time. I think that qualifies as a “half-assed” apology, yes?

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  54. Let me get this straight, Britt cheated on Jared with Adam? I thought from the sound of things, Jared cheated on Britt! There was one post where she opened her email and cried noo! And everyone came rushing to her side to console her. I came to the conclusion that the email she read was a love letter or something like that between Jared and another woman because not long after that she kicked him out – I may have my time line wrong a bit, but I’m not going to back and read all her posts. It seemed to me that some of her posts alluded to Jared having had cheated on her. So, I believed Jared was cheating on her and she was giving him a second chance. Man did I have it wrong! I feel very duped by her. If she would sell out her husband to make herself look like the martyr, imagine what she would/will and has done to her friends. I would tread lightly around her. I will say this though, she is a gifted writer, she knows how spin better than the FOX news network and that is some kind of talent.

    Adam is a douche. How anyone that could respect him after him cheating with Britt knowing that she already had a troubled marriage and being such a close friend to her family. That is what kills me! It’s not like Adam was some random guy that Britt picked up off the street because she felt lonely, Adam is a close friend to the family and that puts the affair in a whole different ballgame. He knew exactly was he was doing and who he would be hurting.

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  55. I need to back up. For the record Britt, Jared, Amy nor Adam have ever done anything to me. Also they’re not now, ever have or will be my friends. Their lives have zero effect on my own. It’s my fault for being upset and about their actions. I could have clicked the X and have for years at a time. I read them occasionally because I like drama when I’m not involved and they are full of it. Same reason I read those kinds of books. However this isn’t a book about fictional characters. They’re real people with real problems who made very real mistakes. While I don’t agree with them carrying on with this behavior, it’s not my place to throw stones at them either. I’ve made big mistakes in my life and also have more than I deserve. With that said, I’m done and wish those involved, upset and hurt the best. May we all learn from our mistakes. Jester I especially wish you the best because I honestly believe it was your morals that prompted this post, not spite.

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  57. I am near the area this whole crew runs in. I am more of a casual observer, not cool enough to be invited to the prom…
    But not even being involved, I suspected all along what you posted was happening.
    I agree with what many people have said, I would NEVER post about my husband in a derogatory manner or defile my marriage for blog sponsors.
    When you post your dirty laundry, you have to be prepared for it to be flung back at you. That goes for everyone in life. Also don’t claim to be this raw open book and bullshit all of us.
    I don’t know Jared at all, but for the love of God, man up.

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    • You may not have made the cut in the Orlando mafia. Apparently, I didn’t either, despite being told by both of them how much I meant to them.

      However, I do live an hour away…and we can start out own little la familia! LOL You are always welcome in casa de CP.

      PS: I have all the nice beaches over here in Tampa Bay. Who needs Disney?
      .-= CP´s last blog ..About the Drama…last words on the subject. =-.

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  58. I feel sick reading this. Really ill. They have a “friend” who is really struggling right now and this seems like a bitch slap to the face. Not that I think that is makes a difference.

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  60. What I find *most* interesting about all the backlash, emails, comments, and discussion around is that not one person has questioned or denied the truthfulness of the affair revelation.

    That tells me *everyone knew* it was happening and no one had the nuts to speak up about it.

    And if everyone already knew this information, why then are they blaming one person in particular for “spilling their secrets?”

    Doesn’t that prove that their readers aren’t nearly as stupid and clueless as the dynamic duo assumes they are?

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    • Let’s say, for hahas, that you’re gay. You haven’t told anyone. It’s personal. But everyone suspects you are. Even though they do suspect you are gay, no one outs you because to do so would not only be very rude, but would also be encroaching your personal life.

      Then, suddenly, someone you know outs you via a blog post, even though you weren’t ready.

      I’m not at all defending what they did. I just think it was wrong of you to breach their personal issues and announce it. You keep saying, “Their readers aren’t that stupid,” but neither are yours. The little clues you wrote are pretty obvious, and only someone who didn’t read either of their blogs would remain oblivious.

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      • Woah, woah, hang on a minute. Are you trying to equate having an affair and misrepresenting your husband so that your readers think HE cheated on YOU and treated YOU like garbage to being GAY?

        I think we can all see the big difference there. I think it’s about time someone stood up and told the truth about Jared. It’s getting old watching people virtually hold her hand and pat her on the back for being treated so poorly. Who has represented Jared’s side in anything? No one. Would you want someone you care about to be made to look like a jerk when they are really the victim?

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      • Elizabeth Kaylene – Since I *am* gay, I think I can answer this question quite well… if I were writing about my life and portraying myself to be anti-gay religious zealot who goes gay bashing on the weekends, I think my readers/fans/sycophants have the moral and ethical duty to out me as a hypocrite. And if I were accepting donations to buy my “wife” breast implants, I think my readers/fans/sycophants should have the stones to call me a fraud.

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      • He absolutely, positively did NOT announce their affair. Neither did another one of their friends who was accused of that. The people who announced the affair were the same people who were having the affair. I’m sorry, but all you had to do was read either blog for no more than a couple of months to know better. They outed themselves. Perhaps they didn’t realize it…but they certainly did. They made some VERY public gestures in front of others, specifically at his Halloween party where Jared was strangely absent from.

        Even my husband noticed…and my husband never notices ANY thing like that.

        Their secret was told to a number of people, any number of which could have spilled the beans. Jester was certainly NOT the first to talk about it and undoubtedly will not be the last.
        .-= CP´s last blog ..About the Drama…last words on the subject. =-.

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  61. Elizabeth, Adam has “outted” more people than you might know. Not in the gay outting kind of way but he had no problem offering Heather up as a sacrifice to the internet whatsoever. He posted various people’s names, addresses and other personal information when it wasn’t his business to do so. While everyone I wanted to know knew my name, address and phone number, he didn’t think that was good enough and felt the need to put my name out there when I did not want it to be. I don’t have anything to hide because I really am what I present myself to be, I just did not want my name to be public knowledge. I don’t have any dirty, little secrets so no real damage was done to me.

    He & Britt on the other hand…smoke and mirrors. When you pretend to be something that you’re not, it will come back to bite you on your fat, hair ass. You cannot present yourself as honourable, ethical, moral and superior when you are none of those things. You will be found out, and when you have secrets, you will be damaged.

    I don’t know about you, but I kinda see it as a “what goes around, comes around” thing. When you fuck with people eventually you will be fucked with.

    So, if what you think Jester did was not right, then times it by 6 and turn it right back around on Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum because they’ve done far more to fuck with people…far more.

    One wrong does not make a right but you can only push people so far, you can only lie and deceive so much before someone gets tired of it.

    If this post was a lie, then yeah, maybe I would agree with you but it’s not and he was pushed to write this post because of their actions. Rather than come out and be open with what they did, rather than just shut up and move along, they shoved the knife in his back.

    When you have secrets you wish to keep, you mighta oughtta want to be extra nice to the people in the know.

    You may not be aware of this but THEY are the ones who let their affair be public knowledge because they told people and as I said, when you have a secret that can come back and bite you, you really do want to be nice to the people who know it.

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  62. Elizabeth Kaylene-
    Oh PLEASE.
    You can’t compare someone keeping the secret of being gay, to two people, BOTH OF WHOM ARE MARRIED, having an extramarital affair. That’s absolutely ridiculous !
    Not to mention, their whole “Transparency and honesty”, “I use my blog to HELP people”, “I use my real name on the internet so you really KNOW me”, and all their other holier-than-thou bullshit lies.
    .-= annie´s last blog ..I’m a Twit =-.

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    • Annie – My issue has never really been “THE AFFAIR” itself. God knows I don’t care who gets their dicks wet wherever. My issue has always been the hypocrisy of pointing fingers and damaging other people’s reputations that they felt superior to. Plus the fact that she portrays her husband to be such an ass when she’s the one stepping out. Secrets are secrets only up until you start blabbing them to people on one side and denying it on the other.

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      • Exactly. Hypocrites.
        That has always been my problem with them all along.
        The affair is just icing on my “I Was Right” cake that I’m eatin’ over here! Yummmm….

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  64. I was wondering that myself. I can see where Adam would be all happy and proud…if she’d just leave her husband and all that.

    I, however, do not believe that she would…er…go to Adam if her poor husband did get a clue. No, I think she would just keep him as her trained gorilla for her amusement while he slobbers in lust at her heels.

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  65. Unless money was involved…in that case, I daresay she’d fuck him in the middle of Cinderella’s Castle with a magnum of vodka in one hand and a cigarette in the other.

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  67. This from the guy who hated people being anonymous on the net because it was deceitful? This from the guys who posts people’s person information on the net…

    Wow.
    &
    Ewwww

    I’m sorry but I wouldn’t fuck that fat, hairy pig for all the money in the world. Britt fucked him even before he lost some of the weight and he was still Shamu jr. then. Have you no standards woman.

    BTW I think she should refund the money for the motorcycle. She was dishonest about it’s true intent. it was a buy off, period.

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    • Okay, totally speaking out in defense of big, hairy fat men?

      Throttle away if you will…but I always found Adam to be attractive. Yes, yes. He’s my type. I know. Flog away. LOL

      But two things would have stopped me from pursuing that:

      One, my own big, hairy husband who I worship more than life itself. And two? I know Adam’s wife. I like Adam’s wife a LOT. She’s smart, funny, articulate, sexy, interesting and an all around really good human being.

      In short, not Adam’s type at all.
      .-= CP´s last blog ..About the Drama…last words on the subject. =-.

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  69. CP,
    Adam is getting divorced. So if you’re single you can hit him up. Sorry but he does nothing for me. Wait yes he does, he makes me scratch my eyes out.

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    • Oh no no, my friend. This Princess is VERY happily married for 8 years to a man who would never even dream of cheating on me, hurting me or making a mockery of my marriage. Adam may be physically appealing to me…but I prefer my men honest, loyal and faithful.

      And my Israeli babe is FAR hotter than Adam. Apples and oranges.

      But thanks for the kind offer. LOL
      .-= CP´s last blog ..The Needy vs. The Greedy =-.

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  70. I will be the first to admit I don’t have a dog in this hunt but I am nothing if not morbidly curious. What is the timeline? I remember there was some bru ha ha at BlogHer last year, maybe in Adam’s ROYO, because someone said they were having an affair? Or asked? Really I just remember the self righteous indignation after the fact so again, just curious.

    And are you honestly and seriously telling me that Jared knows, is aware of this and is 100% okay with his (Adam) staying so entrenched in their lives? Look I know, I know every marriage is different etc etc but having gone through infidelity and the subsequent counseling, I cannot fathom a therapist worth their license endorsing this choice. But again, that’s just me looking in from the outside.
    .-= charmingbitch´s last blog ..I Think I Could Take On Chuck Norris =-.

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    • I certainly dont know the exact date they did the deed. I will say that when I met them in january of 09 if it hadn’t happened already, it was about to.

      I don’t think Jared has been given a choice. He’s repeatedly forced into playing nice because she won’t choose between them.

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    • Jared does know and according to Britt, he is “fine” with the situation and having Adam around.

      Amy, Adam’s ex-wife, has somehow managed to stay blissfully ignorant. I hope it stays that way. She should never know that the woman she thought of as a friend (Britt) was sleeping with her husband.

      Amy is a great lady. She doesn’t deserve this by any stretch. Not referring to the divorce, but rather, to have been made a fool of by the two of them behind her back.

      Nobody deserves that when you think that person is your friend.
      .-= CP´s last blog ..The Needy vs. The Greedy =-.

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  72. WOW. I just cannot even imagine, from either side. I can’t imagine putting my husband in that position (so to speak) or making the decision to stay entrenched when the relationship has already wrecked your own marriage.

    It’s trite as hell but my dad always told me that people who put you in bad situations or expect you to do things detrimental to your well being ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. I know next to nothing about any of these people but I hope Amy got out with at least her dignity and a few good friends. What a mess.
    .-= charmingbitch´s last blog ..I Think I Could Take On Chuck Norris =-.

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  73. She must have netflix projecting xxx porn out of her vagina or something because there’s doormat and then there’s fool.

    They must need the money pretty badly because I simply cannot fathom why any man would allow his wife to stay in close contact with her lover…ex or not.

    As to Amy, I really hope someone tells her. Divorce on the grounds of infidelity would pretty much net her everything. Of whatever he has left, that is.

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    • “She must have netflix projecting xxx porn out of her vagina or something because there’s doormat and then there’s fool.”

      Fucking Donna…LMAO You made me spit out my drink all over my monitor. You always did have a way with words.
      .-= CP´s last blog ..The Needy vs. The Greedy =-.

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  74. I would think that if Adam is not divorced yet neither he nor she will be commenting on any of it. It would be ammunition for Amy.

    He has said in past comments that he would email answer anyone who wanted to know why his marriage broke up. I am guessing pining for another man’s wife would not be the reply.

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    • No. His reply is/was he was simply “not happy”. I would imagine it would be very difficult to be happy with your wife when you are obviously in love with another woman. And yes, I do believe Adam is in love with Britt. All you have to do is read his posts in the past year. It’s irrefutable.

      Is it too much for me to wish that Jared and Amy ride off into the sunset with one another? Two really good people who deserve happiness should be together.
      .-= CP´s last blog ..The Needy vs. The Greedy =-.

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