Comments on: Guest Post: Can a Good Girl Gone Bad Get Back to Good?

By: toby

toby — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:16:06 +0000

Wow, my heart goes out to you. No one ever said that love was easy. Whichever way you choose to deal with the situation, just remember, we all make mistakes. Some are bigger than others and some of us have to learn the hard way. It’s not the mistakes that define someone, but how we respond to those mistakes. Most here who have read my guest blog know one of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made, yet it’s not the mistake that suprised them, but how I chose to deal with that mistake. I think that once you realize you can’t change what has happened, only what will become, you’re inner turmoil will only lessen and life will go on as you’ve hoped. Keep your head up and no one will know the difference.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 04:41:41 +0000

Wow. Thank you everyone. Except Robguy. You’re entitled to your opinion.

When I write things I always feel like I have left out important tidbits that might affect someone’s opinion after reading it (especially if it matters what they think). There is much more I didn’t say, you can be sure.

Thanks for posting your thoughts. They have all made an impact.

By: HoosierGirl

HoosierGirl — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 22:39:00 +0000

Really good. I can really feel the emotions associated with it. I hope she finds happiness one way or another.

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By: hello haha narf

hello haha narf — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 14:15:47 +0000

i hated reading "Why I am so unworthy of any caring or respect" because you are worthy of BOTH caring and respect. you made an admitted mistake. you are trying to get back to doing the right thing. every single person i know has commited some type of sin. we must make an effort every damn day to do the right thing. sounds like you are making that effort. so ease up on yourself. i mean, when you get caught speeding you pay your ticket and try not to speed again. you don't keep sending the cops money every day because you are sorry you were speeding. just don't go speeding around anymore, k? hello haha narfs last blog post..Technical Difficulties

By: Robguy

Robguy — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 09:30:12 +0000

Oh what the hell, I said I would avoid commenting but I guess I will. You’ve long since passed the point of ‘oops we slipped and his dick fell in my vagina, will you forgive me’. You should divorce your husband because he doesn’t deserve someone like you. At least offer it, maybe he’s foolish enough to still want you. Or just continue to do whatever makes you happy.

By: Winter

Winter — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:56:38 +0000

I subscribe to the Gumball Rally way of life. In the movie, Franco (played by Raul Julia) pulls off the rear view mirror of the expensive Ferrari and says, “Whatsa behind me, is not important.”

That’s very true in the sense that what comes next is more important than what has already come and gone. You have to use those lessons of the past wisely to deal with what comes next. Beating yourself up mentally for what is done is wrong. Using what you have learned going forward is what is right and productive.

That being said, I never understand why people “can’t” leave their spouse when they are not happy. No one has chained you. You’re not a prisoner. The correct word is “won’t” and maybe the questions you should ask yourself are not why you did this thing with the other man, but why you won’t leave your spouse when you are not happy.

Don’t say the kids either because the truth of the matter is… in almost all circumstances… the kids know the parents don’t love each other any more. And it’s a rare child who would not be affected by that knowledge. Most are, and most suffer later on in their lives because their parents thought they were doing the right thing by staying together. The only way that benefits the kids is perhaps financially. Mentally and emotionally… they will be just as scarred as if you had broken up, and in a lot of cases, more scarred. To be a good parent, sometimes you have to be a little selfish. If you’re unhappy, eventually, they will be too and later on… they will resent you for that.

I’m not being judgmental. Just tossing out some bits of life as I know them to be… not just from my own life but the lives of many people I’ve known. You don’t get to my age without seeing a lot of this stuff. Be good to yourself. That’s first and foremost. Life’s too short to kick yourself constantly.

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By: heather

heather — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:36:22 +0000

you mentioned that you were faith driven. i’m going to guess that your faith is christianity based simply because that is what mine is. i could very well be wrong here but roll with it for a moment.
forgiveness is a key component to the christian religion. remember that and apply it to yourself. even without faith, you are merely a human being. a key component of humanity is making mistakes. that is how we learn. there is not one among us who hasn’t done something that they are ashamed of and wish they hadn’t done it to begin with. however, there must have been positive elements to this relationship for it to last as long as it did. remember those positive changes and allow them to become part of who you are now. no sense in fighting it. try to apply some of that to your relationship with your husband. who knows, it may help improve the marriage.
as for your friend, perhaps a private, face to face conversation with her explaining that you feel strongly attracted to her husband and do not wish to act on the attraction is why you have not been able to visit her home. no need to let her know that the attraction has already been acted on unless/until you decide to do so.
but most importantly, today is a new day. learn from the past but don’t dwell on it. dwelling doesn’t allow you to appreciate the present or plan for the future.
best wishes for you and everyone involved.

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By: Hilly

Hilly — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 14:37:58 +0000

PS – I’d love to write an anonymous post but I think my writing style would give me away…sigh.

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By: Hilly

Hilly — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 14:37:14 +0000

Every now and then, the heart wants what the heart wants. I would be a hypocrite if I said any differently. But just like Britt said, you have to make a conscious choice to move forward and move on. You’ll have to take some time away from them both in order to sort out your head. If she needs an explanation, you’ll find one…when you are ready.

That’s the trick. Be ready to do this because it’s not easy but…it can be done.

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By: Miss Britt

Miss Britt — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:32:37 +0000

You pick up and start over from where you are right now.

You can’t go back and relive the past. You can’t unmake the decisions. You can’t beat yourself up enough now in the present to make the past not exist.

You just pick up and start from here.

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